In my position working with youth, I was excited to meet all the young people that were involved with the Youth Council. There, seated in front of me, a group of eclectic teens from diverse backgrounds. As change agents, they oozed passion in their interactions while following their group agenda. I adored learning about each of them and continually feel inspired when in their presence.
In my book, Dear Cole, Never Say Never, I discuss my experiences as an intuitive empath after having survived a near death experience at a young age. Ever since that experience, and as I matured into my gifts, I have been able to read people and know things about them that weren’t obvious. When I met Alyssa during the Youth Council meeting I knew she had a spiritual gift as well. I went home and told my boyfriend, “Today I met a fellow lightworker in Youth Council.” She was so shy and I didn’t want to embarrass her or push my beliefs on her just in case I was wrong, so one day I just sent her a text that said, “Have you ever heard of Indigo Children? If not you should look it up.”
Indigo children, according to a pseudoscientific New Age concept, are children who are believed to possess special, unusual and sometimes supernatural traits or abilities. The interpretations of these beliefs range from their being the next stage in human evolution, in some cases possessing paranormal abilities such as telepathy, to the belief that they are more empathetic and creative than their peers (Wiki).
Alyssa responded, “I am a psychic medium and my friends have often called me an Indigo child.”
It was nice to make that connection. She filled me in on the spiritual community in our city, and that there was a Wellness Expo happening that weekend where she would have a healing table with her mentor. I decided to check it out.
When I walked into the space I was immediately taken aback by the crowd. I protected myself with my arms crossed, having only been to one expo previously I was aware at how unstable the energy in the space can become. I walked from table to table not stopping but just glancing over their products and services. I was stopped at this one poster for a medium . There was nothing special about the poster, in fact it was quite plain, but I took note that I seemed drawn to it. I did not recognize the name on the card but I knew well enough to take the card, because I know that when a spirit is giving me a sign to pay attention.
I decided to stop and greet a couple of ladies a few tables down when I saw Alyssa pop up from behind a table where she was experiencing sound therapy.
“Come on over to my booth,” she said. I followed her and laughed out loud when she stopped at the exact booth I couldn’t seem to pull myself away from. “Here we are,” she exclaimed.
Sometimes it is the little things that make you laugh when it comes to energy and synchronicity.
A few weeks later I asked Alyssa if I could interview her about her abilities for my blog. Here is our conversation.
When did you know you had intuitive abilities?
Three years ago I went to a medium and she was my friend’s mom. She told me that she noticed I was picking up all the energy around me that wasn’t my own. She asked me if I ever knew things about other people that they never told me, and I said, “Yes.”
She helped me become aware that I was an intuitive and started teaching me how to be more in tune with myself.
Reiki is a form of hands-on energy healing that you mentioned you practice. Can you tell me how working with this form of healing has helped you as an intuitive?
It feels great to be able to help people and connect with them on another level. Through working with a lot of people I have learned a lot about myself.
What kind of spiritual experiences have you had since working under the mentorship of another intuitive?
I have had some really strange experiences including communicating to animals that have passed on. Lately I have been smelling strange things in situations; for example, I went to someone’s house I had never been to before and it was a non-smoking house. I couldn’t get the smell of cigarette smoke out of my nose. I found out their grandfather had recently died of lung cancer from smoking. I have been experiencing a lot of things like that lately and I find it interesting to me.
Does it ever scare you?
What scares you the most about your abilities?
Being able to talk to a spirit scares me sometimes because of the thought that it can live through you. As a medium I am scared of protecting myself from something like that happening. I find, before I had training, I used to hold in everyone’s energy and I didn’t know how to clear it. I would start feeling things that weren’t mine and it affected me so negatively. It changed how I felt any time and I didn’t know how to control it, or really understand what was happening. It would put me in not very healthy situations, so sometimes I fear that happening, but I have more support now.
As a young teenage medium, how do you approach situations where people are critical?
I don’t really like to push my views surrounding spirituality on anyone. If people are open to it, it’s better. I know what I feel and I know what I can do, so really they have no right to tell me what I experience is not real. They aren’t me. They can’t possibly understand.
How supportive were your family and friends when you decided to develop your intuitive gifts?
My mother didn’t really understand it completely, and still doesn’t, but she supported me in the process of working with a mentor, attending conventions, working on other people, etc. She liked the idea of it because at the time I was in a really bad place and me having that in my life was helping me deal with my situation. She was really supportive because she wanted me to get better.
I’ve had people doubt me, or tell me I am crazy, that is impossible or that I have the devil inside me.
I think that it is really important to know who you are enough to know that those things aren’t true and don’t define you. It’s basically like someone telling you that you have purple hair when you have blonde hair. You have to have that confidence in yourself to know that all those judgments are negativity, and you don’t need it in your life.
Do you think teenagers are more open to building their intuitive abilities?
There are a lot of people my age that may be intuitive but aren’t aware of it yet, or don’t understand it. Being a teenager is really emotional either way, add in the gift of intuition, and it can be difficult.
I have a couple friends who are intuitive and I knew as soon as I met them, they just have a different way of being that we recognize in each other. The way they talk, act and connect with you is a whole different feeling.
How does the process work when you open up to a client? How do the departed connect with you?
I usually start the process with Reiki energy healing and see if I can pull the spirit through. Most the time I don’t see the spirit but I can hear them and see flashes of images in my head as they communicate with me.
I do see things. For example I once met a woman whose sister was murdered. For two weeks after meeting her I kept seeing this picture in my head of these two teens sitting on a bed talking. A little while later she asked if I could do energy work on her; during the treatment I found out that her sister died. Without me telling her what I saw, she told me that her favorite memory she had with her sister was how she always came and sat at the end of her bed to talk to her. I usually happens like that or with the combination of the visions, smell, audio and feeling.
How do you view the world as an empath?
I usually find the way your energy is about a situation, [and I] can change it. Whenever I feel that something negative is going to happen to someone else I change my energy surrounding it. I change it into something positive.
An example would be, when my brother was in the hospital everyone around him was so angry and upset. They had this awful negative energy around him and he wasn’t getting better. Eventually I told everyone, “You need to stop being upset with him and you need to think positively.” Everyone immediately started to do that and he was discharged from the hospital a day later.
The way you feel about something can really shape how it ends up being.
I love that you are such an advocate for people who are self-identifying. Can you tell me about how you like to be addressed without pronouns?
It’s been a realization that I don’t like to be referred to in a gender specific way. I prefer they or them, or by my name. It’s difficult for myself to understand. It’s like being born into a world where nobody really understands you or has the vocabulary to address you. I sometimes feel like I was born in the wrong body or that I feel confined and just ‘stuck’ in a body.
Like when Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “We are spiritual beings having a human experience .”
Yes, exactly. I don’t want to be limited by a gender binary. You are a girl and you can dress like this, or like these toys or these activities. Or if you’re a boy, you can be strong, aggressive, non-emotional, etc. It feels very limiting. I don’t see things that way. I don’t see gender. I like to meet people as people; not limit them to a gender.
What advice can you give younger children about being a teenager?
My advice would be to own your own identity, and let yourself feel. Know the difference between what you believe and what the people around you believe.
(A special Thank You to Beauchamp Photography for the wonderful images)